One of the beautiful things about a good relationship is the way that you can absorb each others’ interests. For example, Kristen and I have very few shared interests but over time, we’ve slowly started crossing over in to each others domains. I now seem to like donkeys, baking cakes (well not so much the baking bit) and sitting in the park enjoying the sunshine (my nickname when I was Uni was “The Mushroom” if that gives you an idea of the old me). Kristen has taken an interest in football (but I’m still without luck on the cricket front) and playing music. It’s nice being able to do things together but at the end of the day, I don’t believe that these superficial things are really that important, they’re not the things that keep you together – there are other core beliefs and values that are fundamental to sustaining a relationship. In 20 years time, a shared interest might no longer be shared and if you clash on your core morals and values, the glue that keeps you together will dry up. But if you simply are interested in different things but believe the world should exist in a certain way and that people should also behave in a certain way, that’a partnership you can sustain for your whole life and learn and discover other new interests together.
I’m not writing this as my moment of pretending I’m Dr Phil. Ash and Luke remind me of what I’ve just written – as different as you might be and as diverse a set of things you’re interested in, you can still be amazing together as a couple. In this case, Ash is chatty and friendly and loves animals (I mean SERIOUSLY loves animals). Luke is a bit quieter and loves building and restoring hot rods. Their sense of style and personalities are different but their love for each other is visible and consistent.
On their wedding day, Luke was really excited to be photographed with the cows and llamas that lived on the property where they got married and Ash arrived in a hot rod very similar to the one she currently owns and is restoring. While these little glimpses of their loves being reflected by the other was nice to see, something else more important and fundamental holds these two together and that, is an even more amazing thing.