When Tash first spoke to me, I was given the following information:
- The wedding would be at a Raspberry Farm in Tasmania
– They were lovers of theatre so there would be singing and dancing
– There would be a flashmob dance performed by the bridal party
– They would walk down the aisle to the ‘Game of Thrones’ theme
– There would be Lego involved somehow
– A flaming arch was going to be above them during their twilight ceremony.
By the time I reached the end of her email, my excitement was palpable.
Now not all of these things went ahead. On the wedding day, the flaming arch thing didn’t happen (I imagine there were some OH&S issues involved) and Lego was replaced by Japanese mini-blocks. But it didn’t matter – Jules and Tash did everything with style and it matched exactly with them as people. “Why would brides wear white?” could have been Tash’s motto as she walked in wearing a bright purple dress. And why not eat before the ceremony, surely everyone is hungry? And to finish it all off there were interactive musical performances by the groomsmen and a specially written song from Tash to Jules (sung to the tune of ‘Hey Jude’ by The Beatles). And let’s not even mention the breakfast in the 50s diner, the customised M&M’s with Tash and Jules’ faces on them brought lovingly all the way from the USA by one of the bridesmaids and the game of laser tag we all played the evening before. This was two people in their element and loving it.
A few days after I got home, I shared one image. Tash saw it and then shared it with her friends online with the caption “Victory of awesome. 19/1/13 The happiest day of my life — not only marrying my man but being surrounded by PURPLENESS.” Nothing I can say will top that.
Believe it or not, I don’t 100% agree with marriage. It can represent a number of archaic traditions which aren’t relevant in our lives and it’s effectively a process whereby our government decides who is and isn’t allowed to get married. It’s discriminatory and I really don’t like that. But there’s something that I do believe in – loving someone so much that you want to symbolise your commitment to be together for the rest of your lives by having a wonderful celebration with your family and friends. And that’s why I do what I do, so I can be part of that and offer something to celebrate with after it’s all over and done with.
The way marriage is legislated in Australia, most heterosexual couples who are de-factos for a period of time are afforded the same privileges as married couples. As such, the majority of people don’t actually NEED to get married in Australia to be treated like they’re married from a legal sense. So why do people still get married? I think it obviously comes back to the symbolism for the greater part which is a pretty awesome thing.
When Ben and Serina contacted me early last year, they said that they had been together for a long time and had been engaged for four years with no immediate plans to get married. However, some significant changes occurred in their lives and their circumstances altered. They said that it felt like it was “important to celebrate the great things in life when you have the opportunity.” Those words resonated with me, life was about relishing the opportunities that you’re given and grabbing it with two hands. I’m a believer of appreciating the small things that you have in life and also accepting the way things are and accepting these circumstances – make lemonade out of lemons. And so, here I am, reaping the rewards of relishing an opportunity I was afforded to do what I do. And I was lucky enough to share that with two other people who were relishing their very own little opportunity.